The year is about to end and just like what everybody claims, it has taught us a lot of lessons: Lessons that we learned by ourselves or vicariously. Maybe this is not the only year that we gained those insights but this is probably one of those times when we appreciate what we learned for the last 365 days; and with that, we hope that it will make us improved individuals for the coming year.
The year 2015 has been a good year for me not because everything that happened was good all throughout (There is no such life as that.How would you know happiness,when there is no sorrow?) but it taught me how to STRUGGLE,or let me give a better term,STRIVE,for the things that I want in my life.This is indeed a year full of beginnings for me. Here are some of the lessons I learned and the insights that help me made it through and i want to share them with you:
1.If you want something,you just really have to start somewhere. If that means you have to start from scratch(especially if you do not have the anything to begin with), weigh your options or do some trial and error, do it. Because every beginning is really difficult (Remember an object at rest will remain at rest, unless an outside force is acted upon it ), this takes a great deal of energy or force, and that should come from YOU. You just need to lift your butt and work your ass off
2.We can only do what we can with what have to do best of our abilities given the circumstances. There is no perfect life, but we,as humans, are only capable to manipulate things that we are in control of. We cannot have everything in favor of us most of the times.Just like what John green said in his book the fault in our stars,”The world is not a wish-granting factory”. Reality bites!If you do not know what to do,just be silent and pray.
3.You will feel tired,physically and emotionally.Rest,Sleep,take vitamins. Cry your heart out or Hug someone. Do not forget that your body is your vessel and it still needs to be taken care of. Even if your will power is strong,if your body is already giving up, you cannot go on further. Nevertheless, mental and emotional health are also equally important. There are times that I almost wanted to give up because I was tired of exerting my effort of always taking chances as well as burnt out of hoping. ( But then again, to tell you, if we think of how much we want to achieve our goals,we then realign our set of priorities.(I was lucky that my efforts paid off)
4.Time is gold. But Prioritize and balance. This is easier said than done. There will always be pressure everywhere that demands reorganization of your priorities. Time is so gold that we cannot afford it. There will be a time for work, studies and family.But we often forget that the time for rest and recreation is also gold. (This is what I often tell myself) Strive to balance. Life is short and remember not to be that busy that you totally forget how to live.
5.Invest in People. I know, the world is full of crappy people that makes you lose your faith in humanity. We do not want to invest deep feelings that we end up being hurt,alone and taken for granted.Talking about love?Yes. But that is also what happens in different modus operandi that entails acquisition of trust. But there are still evidences that shows people’s genuine intention to others . However,still strive to be kind even if others are not. Always try to see the good in others . Appreciate different kind of people. Never attempt to please others because you will most likely fail.We are entitled of different opinions. Others enjoy healthy arguments and debate but most people consider it as aggression. Know your people.
6.Plan to Challenge yourself. This year is full of surprises that I want to thank for.Not all plans are followed. And contrary to the common belief that if you plan,it is less likely to happen.(For barakada getaways,most of the times.) But Plan anyway.While others can set their plans on their mind, it still helps that we list what we want to achieve. Write it. Post it.(But not on your FB wall).Create a bucketlist or New years’ resolutions. It may be a cliche or may sound passe as they may say.(because it is either you only follow what you listed on the 1st tries or you never do it all. You and only you can make things happen.If it is written and posted there is a higher chance that it will happen because you are reminded to do it.Plus, it feels so awesome to check it one by one and see a fully checked list in the end of the year. (Make sure your goals are realistic though. But if you really are ambitious, you can make steps for it.If there is a will there is a way:)
7.We live in a world who runs people and not in a world being ran by people. Never let go of your values. This is a challenge to us . To become who we are is really difficult because the world changes us and our views with regards to everything and even in beauty. Technology has changed our morals,The effort exerted are lessened. The genuineness are oftentimes doubted and Even our belief to the existence of God.But never doubt,my friend.Do not always go with the flow. Pause.Reflect. Stick to your values. It does not mean that everyone think it is correct, it is 100% correct.
8.Money is important but it sometimes invalidates happiness and sincerity. You would not know if your friends are true if you have it.Take it away and see it from there. Yes,It gives convenience. It gives you purchasing power that leads to living life with happiness. How would you live without spending a penny. Even every move,you will have to spend money.How can you afford to enjoy life.It is also important in maintaining relationships. Many relationships are also dissolved by Financial constraints. Before you build up a family, it is important that you already have earned for it. However,never lose sight of what is important. Do not be materialistic.Think about aiming for financial freedom.
9.Explore. Experience variety.You are given gifts and senses to explore the world. You are not meant to stay in front of the computer, working with your desk or studying inside the classroom. Life is meant to be experienced and lessons are applied outside. Do not confine yourself inside a box. Train yourself to see the gold everywhere. Appreciate.
10.You are you. You might have insecurities but do not wish to become somebody else because things may have become differently if you are on another’s shoes.You might be bashed, bullied and lose your confidence at times. You know yourself than others. You do not owe everyone an explanation because like you they have their own perceptions and if they do not want you and they can always choose to think ill about you. Just act in a way that when somebody says bad about you no one will believe it. You are a human and bound to make mistake, but of course, strive for greatness.
Life is short. Do whatever that makes you happy. Make sure you live it well and that you do not live vicariously. You are expected to make your own path.You are allowed to make mistakes because No one is taught on how to live life and you just have to learn from it.
*note to self